I have been trying to come to terms lately with the adult-sized child formerly known as my “little” boy who is living in my house. I mean, he’s still my little boy, but I have to recognize as a parent that he is growing up. It’s REALLY hard. I mean I love that I can now sleep in and the kids can get up and look after getting their own breakfast. I like that they can play outside and I don’t have to worry about someone running into the street. I like that I can make laundry piles of everyone’s clothes and they can put it away themselves….so many good things – but as I face my first child entering this teen age – well, I am not really sure what I think! Wasn’t it just yesterday that I was sobbing my little heart out after the first morning of JK?
I am learning that it is a little bit hard to let go.
But here is the cool thing. It’s exciting to see your child grow in Jesus. Our parenting skills have been FAR from perfect, however – I can say with confidence that we have done everything we can to raise our kids knowing that Jesus is their Saviour, that he loves them and they can have a personal relationship with him. It’s awesome to look at my son and see that he loves Jesus. It’s awesome to see him making choices on his own and that I am able to remind him of his faith, and about making the right decision and asking him how his faith interacts with the challenges and opportunities he has each day. I know that he will make mistakes, but I also know that Jesus has his hand on his life – and that is what I place my trust in. It makes it so much easier.
Last week Noah went to his first youth retreat. After telling him about 100 things to make sure he did or did not do (ranging from wearing his coat to not putting a wet towel in his suitcase..), I paused and said, “This is the moment that Mommy and Daddy have been preparing you for since you were little”. He was a little baffled, his reply was, “You have been preparing me my whole life to go to Muskoka Woods for Getaway?”
(I know, I’m a little dramatic)
My Answer – “We have been preparing you to be able to make the right choices and do the right thing when we are not around to guide you. We have been preparing you to think about Jesus wherever you are, and to make sure he is present in your life. That is what we have been preparing you for…so here goes! It’s up to you!”
I kinda feel like he’s starting to launch out. And while it’s sorta hard not to be able to control all the situations in his life, it’s exciting to see and anticipate where Jesus is going to take his life and how he will use him.
ALL of this to say that when I put this into perspective as a parent, I then think of it in perspective as a children’s pastor – and I am reminded of the importance of equipping our families, empowering parents and speaking into and discipling our children together – so that when they come to the age of launching – we can do it will confidence, knowing that we have worked together with them to be the #1 influence in their children’s lives. It’s really exciting! And I am thankful that through my process of letting go (which is just starting…thankfully college is a long way off) that I am reminded of our family focus and how we can work together to equip our kids! That is my prayer – to see passion in our children for Jesus be turned into a passion for Jesus as they are teens and then turn into a passion for Jesus when they are adults.
That’s the goal.
Shelly